About this time of year I used to ask myself, “what do you want?” Now the more pertinent question I pose is, “why do I want what I want?” Am I looking at my current state of existence from a feeling of lack based on the envy of the perceived golden life of others? Or is the question posed from the standpoint of that which I seek is a logical stepping stone in the creation of more who I sense I can become. Maybe it is a combination of both. I have come to understand it is this tension in my emotional frequencies that causes the static, a tug of war between the higher self that watches, quietly aware and fulfilled and the everyday self, constantly in motion that sifts and sorts and analyzes. Isn’t that what life is about…choosing which emotion you are going to wear today based on your current life situation? Reality can be both confusing and deceptive – a sea of nothingness or a vast ocean teeming with yet to be seen potentiality.
Through contrast, we acknowledge a state of being strikingly different from something else. Knowing what we don’t want helps us to identify what we do want. When we become a gardener of our thoughts, nurturing those of joy and gratitude and plucking those of regret and resentment, we cultivate wellness and prosperity. However, being composed of a myriad of socially imposed experiences, this is a skill that is not acquired overnight.
We make the most of ourselves first for ourselves and then for others because that is how we can give and receive the most. Possessing an indefatigable spirit, we are all heroes in the making.
I have become increasingly aware of the quality of my thoughts- overall not too bad, but still a work in progress to become more accepting, less judgmental. According to the law of attraction (which I wholeheartedly accept), each of us can create whatever we choose through our thoughts and emotions. It’s all about the attention you devote to frequency of vibration you emit.
I look at those who appear to live a life of ease, enjoying abundance with apparently minimum effort of their own. Things just appear to fall into place and even more embellishes their life. They appear to be relaxed and completely confident that everything is taken care of and will always work out for their benefit. So if this works for them, then why not for me…why not for anyone who recognizes that they too can be prosperous? For me this is the strongest proof for the law of attraction and Alfred’s favorite saying, “the more you complain, the more it will gain; the more you praise the more you will raise.” Still there is a part of me that stubbornly insists, “I’ll believe it when I see it.” Why does this doubter hide in the crevasses of my brain? Acknowledging that I, as well as Alfred and many others are in and out of enlightenment, I surround myself with the wisdom of many great minds- Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Esther Hicks- who all professed the opposite, “You’ll see it when you believe it.”
Today, in the midst of sorting through my thoughts, embracing the positive and disarming the negative, I went into a 7/11 convenience store. Behind the counter a tall, slim, dreadlocked young man with a Jamaican accent greeted me with a brilliant smile that lit up the store. After only a few short exchanged pleasantries about the fortunes of life, he said, “My grandmother always told me whatever you put out in the universe is what you get. And I believe her.” Beautifully and simply said. So I continue to structure my thoughts, actions and emotions to acknowledge that the glass is half full and getting fuller every day in every way. It’s an ongoing process just as growth, just as life. But after all is said and done, it feels good to feel good and that alone is a blessing.
Part of the responsibility of being human is to examine the circumstances of our life. Our destiny is not easily revealed, because it is too hard to comprehend, too frightening. Thus the search for enlightenment proceeds, one step at a time, revealing things that are at times unpleasant, but must be unveiled in order for us to learn and grow. Adversity provides us with opportunities to learn some tough lessons that help us to improve our life situation and to move forward.
No matter how well we plan ahead, things will not always go as planned. There will always be unexpected obstacles and setbacks along our path that appear to completely derail our efforts. However, self-awareness can be a valuable tool for guidance. When we focus on what is happening right in this very moment we can actually do something. As things happen only in the current moment, we can apply the lessons we have learned in the past without dwelling in the blame and the pain. We can strive toward our goals (our dreams) without shackling ourselves with doubts of “what if”.
An old Chinese proverb states, “the gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.” Each situation we master gives us the strength to face the next one. Even though life seems to be a continual struggle, if we take a moment, we can also remember the beautiful events. If we are able to keep our energy focused on the seed of benefit which may be found in every adversity, we will be able to appreciate the uniqueness of who we are.
* Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor for lack of ideas. Disney also went bankrupt several times before he built Disneyland.
* When Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone in 1876, it did not ring off the hook with calls from potential backers. After making a demonstration call, President Rutherford Hayes said, “That’s an amazing invention, but who would ever want to use one of them?”
* Wilma Rudolph was the 20th of 22 children. She was born prematurely and her survival was doubtful. When she was four years old, she contracted double pneumonia and scarlet fever which left her with a paralyzed left leg. At age nine, she removed the metal leg brace she had been dependent on and began to walk without it. By 13, she had developed a rhythmic walk, which doctors said was a miracle. That same year she decided to become a runner. She entered a race and came in last. For the next few years every race she entered she came in last. Everyone told her to quit, but she kept on running. One day she actually won a race. And then another. From then on she won every race she entered. Eventually this little girl, who was told she would never walk again, went on to win three Olympic gold medals.
Our troubles don’t define us...how we handle them does.
Given the wide array of subject matter in Alfred’s paintings, it is interesting to listen to viewers’ comments and questions and equally interesting to listen to our responses. Like a dance, we flow between offering our opinions when the need arises to speak up and remaining silent when we recognize it is more productive to shut up. Either way we impact our collective destinies realizing what is said can do significant harm or positively change someone’s world.
Communication forms a daily part of our lives. Yet constantly talking is not necessarily communicating, especially when it involves interrupting or redirecting the conversation to one’s own concerns. Stephen Covey once said, “listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to reply.” Then when we do reply, we put your words in the context of adding value and purpose to the conversation. We march to the beat of our own music without steamrolling others who are doing the same. When we discover a personal truth—whether concerning an issue in science, history, spirituality or any other subject matter—we should maintain a conviction about it, all the while recognizing our own intellectual fallibility. The pursuit of knowledge requires an open-mindedness for the world is a university and everyone is a teacher. It is not important to be right or wrong; important is how we handle ourselves in either case.
How many times has information been passed on to you that has later revealed itself as incorrect? To complicate and confuse things more, a second opinion turns out to be the exact opposite! So where do we find the truth -verifiable facts that accurately portray our reality?
Lately we hear so much about fake news. But is this a new trend? Deliberate misinformation has circulated for centuries, only it was called propaganda- Wikipedia is full of historical examples. The purpose of journalism, according to The American Press Institute , is “to provide citizens with the information they need to make the best possible decisions about their lives, their community, their societies and their governments.” It should be a professional discipline that assembles and verifies facts.
There are several credible sites we can use to recheck news stories, posts on social media and phony reviews for online products or services. Any information that have questionable URLs (.co), use low quality grammar, that get rave ratings or are not transparent about their identity are probably not reliable sources. If the news you are reading makes you really angry or really smug, this too could be a sign that the facts are not legitimate as they rely on extreme reactions to get re-shared or retold.
When we base our perception of truth on what we read or hear, we have to be cognizant and cautious not to accept anything immediately at face value. Check multiple sources when you seek advice and then run it through the filter of your own common sense. To borrow from the popular public service announcement, “the more you know” , the more you are able to discern fact from fiction. Using our basic ability to perceive with practical judgment allows us to know what to question and what to trust. Never stop questioning.
The human body requires water, not only to sustain the cells and organs that are predominantly comprised of it, but also for maintenance and lubrication as well as other purposes, such as controlling body temperature, heart rate and blood pressure. Water is also key in flushing waster and toxins from our bodies. While our bodies require a regular intake of water, it is also important to be aware that it is constantly leaving the body as well. We lose it whenever we breathe, sweat and use the bathroom and that water needs to be replaced. Things such as physical activity level, a person's current health and the climate in which they live as well as the weather at any given time are also factors to consider when determining an appropriate level of water consumption. Not all water intake has to be from water exclusively, however a lot of it should. About 25% of the water we get is received from the foods we eat. Fruits and vegetables are a great source, counting toward your daily intake. Adding lemon or lime or infusing it with fresh fruits or herbs, gives water a fresh taste and makes it easier to drink more.
Some warning signs of dehydration are dark urine or an inability to urinate for an extended period of time, dry mouth, fatigue, inability to produce tears, extreme thirst, headaches, dizziness or muscle cramps. Conversely, it is also dangerous to drink too much water. When excessive amounts enters the body, it dilutes the sodium in your blood which can be very harmful if it isn't replaced.
(Source: "Hydration 101" by Lindy Callahan, from Ageless, The Bulletin Special Projects, Bend, Oregon)
When life flows smoothly, we think we have achieved a state of inner peace. Our relationships are harmonious, the bills are all paid and there is still money in the bank, we are healthy and energized to enjoy all the pleasures just waiting to be chosen. We are happy and satisfied. Yet everyday life isn’t always like that. If we are able to remain calm and balanced during the turbulent, emotionally charged phases, than we truly live in that blissful consciousness that so many frantically search for.
Inner peace is within reach of everyone. It is not dependent on material status or popularity, on where we live, our age or our health, or any other outer circumstance. Thinking futile, anxious thoughts is a habit that can be changed. The first requirement is to become aware of the incessant chatter that creates mental chaos and then to become willing to consciously act differently. It’s almost like we have to step outside of ourselves and become the neutral observer. When we see the impact of our emotions, our dislikes, judgments and fears, have on our body, this realization liberates us from the attack/defense mechanisms that we let control us. In doing so, we begin to understand that we are someone of much greater intelligence than the discordant energy that is rocking our vessels. Thus, it becomes a great asset to be able to silence the mind.
Our life is shaped according to our thoughts and the field of possibilities is immeasurable! The present moment is all we have to work with. It is our tool for transformation. When we resist what is, we energize a problem, making it even more powerful. Accepting what is, however, doesn’t mean giving up. It just means that we put ourselves in a better position to take action when necessary. Somewhat counterintuitive, when you accept what is, it loses much of its power to rob your inner peace. It just is. When we see more clearly and objectively, we can take the appropriate action to change our situation. Being able to keep oneself strong in the face of stress and discord emits a powerful frequency to which others will be attracted. With this disposition of serenity, we not only become more of who we are, but so also do they.
I believe in the innate goodness of mankind. This goodness I am referring to is honesty, compassion, kindness and moral courage. It is the source of energy that lives within us. It is the catalyst that propels us through the challenges of life- the human experiences we spiritual beings encounter. It gives us guidance and a sense of hope while viewing the tumultuous situations that mankind has always dealt with. Hate doesn’t solve any problems; it just creates more. There have always been tyrants, murderers, those who ignored or were misled to ignore the consequences of their actions, that you reap what you sow. But even though they appeared all powerful and dominant, they have always failed in the end. For those who disrespect the rights of individual human lives are compared to trees with weak roots. The taller they grow, the more resistance they will offer to the wind and are bound to fall. Perhaps it is also the real proof that mankind still exists because good will always outweigh the bad. Every act of senseless violence resounds with countless acts of empathetic kindness and goodness.
Stripped down to the most basic common denominator, the two primary emotions in humans are fear and love. Each of us has our positive and are less positive traits. Important to remember is that between good and bad are many shades in the value scale, some of which are issues of relativity. Wayne Dyer once said, “The single most important decision any of us will ever make is whether or not to believe the universe is friendly. It’s your choice”. For if we focus on what’s ugly, we attract more ugliness in our thoughts which influences our emotional well-being and correspondingly expands into our lives. The World Alliance of Interfaith Clergy states that “kindness has no church, peace has no religion, compassion has no temple, love has no borders.” All of these have been found numerous times in the most unlikely, unluckiest places. The world works better when we hold out our hands and our hearts to one another.
Life certainly takes us on an interesting journey. Well, no, actually we do that. We meet people, we separate, lose contact with them. We learn a skill, get a job, adopt a hobby and forge interests that take us near and far, each experience interweaving into our identity. Along the way, the joyous times, are interspersed with challenges. Then there are those straight, monotonous stretches of indecision, seeking endless advice from others. Yet everyone is on the road alone, responsible for the route they take.
As a human being, we have the sense of free will, but we become confused and worried about the unknown- that which we think we have no control over. Mystical traditions state that choice only becomes apparent when we are unclear. Decision making is intrinsically linked to our emotions. On the one hand they recognize danger, but on the other, may also lead us astray- the ongoing struggle between our rational conscious and our intuitive subconscious. Time reveals whether our decisions were "good" or bad" and who knows what's good or bad since that which is negative offers the opportunity for a greater benefit.
Those who feel unable to change, attach themselves to the carousel of their own fear, worry and doubt, moving up and down in the same place, reliving their regrets again and again. They exhaust themselves physically, mentally and spiritually. Reminiscing about the past, fantasizing what might have been, should have been, they go around and around, always ending up in the same place they started. Although it feels real, it's actually a matter of perspective- the glass half full versus the glass half empty.
There are no mistakes- only the ever-present opportunity to re-calibrate our direction. When we understand this, we are able to see the meaning behind our actions and their repercussions. If we are feeling miserable, our life energy needs to be reinvested in a new choice. In that decisive moment, we trade our current action (or inaction) for something that has purpose and joy, transforming the fear, anger, stress and depression into something more positive.
Why not take a piece of paper and write on it everything you regret, everything you could have done differently or better. Then write down your corresponding emotion to each remorse, how you felt about yourself and the people involved. Then, go outside, find a fireproof pot and burn that piece of paper. Allow the relief and joy to purge the old worn out feelings of regret. You are now free to become the master of your own existence.
Alfred A. Dolezal
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