Let’s face it, some days are just crummy. And for some, those days seem to last a very long time. Unhelpful thinking forms a pattern, gains momentum and attracts more of the same and thus becomes their perceived reality. In this autopilot mode, negative thoughts control how they feel and how they act. Worry, anxiety and depression soon become interspersed throughout their daily activities as the body releases more stress hormones.
Anais Nin once said: “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” The biggest indicator that we are out of alignment is by how we feel. Yet this chronic mental habit can be broken by consciously making a choice to stop thinking that way. Once we recognize that there are solvable and unsolvable worries, we can begin to make a choice. For example, if one negatively views himself as unhealthy because of high cholesterol or extra pounds, he can make better diet choices and exercise more. If a negative thought is beyond our control, meditation and mindfulness can be valuable tools that will provide relief through detachment. Releasing judgment, focusing on our strengths and practicing gratitude all help to raise one’s vibration and one’s spirit. Most important, it helps to know there is a higher guidance system standing by to show the way…as long as we don’t get in the way by offering thoughts of opposition.
At times I have to pull myself out of trying too hard to solve a problem to bring about a desired result. Overthinking soon initiates frustration and anxiety. Finding something good about the situation and remembering my accomplishments lessen the resistance and open up new channels of creative thought. Questioning what I can learn from an unsavory event and what I can do to evoke a better outcome or better yet, prevent it altogether, puts me back on track. Uncertainty and unpredictability will always be a part of our experience. “Worrying about the future doesn’t prevent tomorrow’s troubles, it just robs today of its strength and joy.”